DATING

How to meet girls in adult dating Full Dating Guide

 

1. Where to find girls online

how to meet girls onlineAs you already know  AdultFriendFinder.com is the biggest and the most well known adult dating site on the net. It is one of the longest running, most established and biggest adult dating sites around, and as such its members database has grown to enormous proportions and make them the largest in the industry!
It has over 50 million active members that make them a perfect choice for you, because your chances of success on any adult dating site (just like dating in the real world) is very much a numbers game. The greater the pool of people you have to choose from, the better your chances of getting a date, and also the more picky you can be.
Best and most important thing about this adult dating site is that AdultFriendFinder.com has genuine profiles of genuine people! Far too many other adult dating sites have been accused again and again of using fake profiles of sexy female members in order to entice male members to pay to upgrade their subscriptions and this kind of practice gives the whole adult dating industry a bad name. AdultFriendFinder.com have strong policy against such things they actively seek out and ban fake profiles! This is just one of the many reasons why AdultFriendFinder.com has remained in business for over 10 years and has amassed more than 50 million members. They want you to be happy and pay membership, and only way to do that is to find you some girl you can fuck in real life. In other words AdultFriendFinder.com is perfect place to implement everything you will learn here and in the end bring some girl in your bad.

So, now that we have decide WHERE we are going to search for girls, let’s find out HOW to meet them and make them spread legs for you 😉

 

2. How to make adult dating profile

First thing you’re gonna need to do when you register on AdultFriendFinder.com is to set up your Profile. This is very important step in your adult dating game so take it very seriously, because you will never get a second chance to make a first impression. Bottom line: a dating profile—your first impression—is “sell copy,” and you’re the product being marketed. The trick for you to get the biggest bang for your buck is to optimize your pitch so it will best appeal to girl’s brain with content that directly tags her where Cupid lives.

Screen Name

Your screen name, also known as your handle, should be concise and easy to remember. Don’t be just another “BigDick126” or “WorkingStud35”. Make it meaningful. Let it say something unique about you. Try including things you like to do, what you looking for, or some activity you participate in.

Profile Picture

This is the most important thing when you setting up your profile. You just MUST have a picture in your profile and there is no discussion about that. Profiles without a picture not only that don’t get any attention by girls (so there is zero chance to girl send you message first), but when you send message you automatically look fishy to girl and that suspicion trigger questions – Why he doesn’t have picture? Is he soooo ugly? (even if you are, you still have a great chance with this guide, but that is not a point right now) Is he some maniac? Maybe this is a fake profile? Is he too shy? And your chances to get response from her are destroyed at a very beginning. So you absolutely need picture in your profile, and very big bonus to you will be a gallery with few pictures in it. But ANY picture will not do the trick.how to meet girls online
You can win or lose a person’s attention with your profile pictures, and it’s not because of your looks. What you’re doing in the pictures can affect how you’re perceived, and with the right pictures, you might be able to catch a few more eyes and even first message in your inbox.
You don’t have to be ridiculously good-looking to be successful at online dating. In fact, sometimes more attractive people can be at a disadvantage in online dating. According to a study by AdultFriendFinder.com, women prefer to message guys of “average” good looks more often than they do the “most attractive” men. So if you’re a normal guy, you’re already ahead of the game.
Then why do so many guys post Zoolander selfies, comic hero’s,Hollywood actors, ridiculously photoshopped pictures and professionally photographed headshots? They’re trying too hard—and it shows. The woman you’re looking for probably doesn’t care about that stuff, they want something else.
What does increase your odds of meeting more girls in person is when your pictures show your hobbies, your sense of humor, your full life,your body and sex interests. More than any selfie, these profile pictures show people how you’re unique and interesting.
But since this is not a mainstream dating site, but adult dating site, feel free to show some skin, but for a love of God – Don’t put your dick picture as a profile picture! Girls here are not angles and saints, but you still need to have some class and subtleties to get to them. Some nasty pictures are welcomed but in your gallery, not as your profile picture
All in all, your profile picture should be your face (with smile!), your body, on a beach, in uniform (if you work in uniform), in sport clothing, be naked (but don’t show only your cock), in a party, by the water pool, etc.You can be mysterious and not showing your face but show some part of you or something that define you. At the end Just Be You, and you have complete one of the most important thing in making profile.

Profile Description (Headline)

Start with a good, attention-grabbing headline: This is perhaps the second most important aspect of your online dating profile, after your picture. It is what makes girls decide whether or not to read the rest of your profile. Treat this the same way as your screen name. It should be meaningful and give a hint of who you are or what you want (of course, without revealing too much personal information). You could study headlines that attract your attention in AdultFriendFinder.com and emulate these without directly copying them, or do the same with some lines we have tested.
We have try many different descriptions-headline and of the many lines we’ve used, here are the 3 most effective ones:

– “This may seem odd on a site like this, but I’m a very caring guy. No, I’m not some sort of hopeless romantic. I’d be on Match.com if I were. But I’m not the type that only cares about myself in an NSA. Your pleasure is just as important as mine. I NEVER want you to leave unsatisfied and am willing to make sure, each time, you get what you deserve.”
– “I’ll be straight and to the point. I want a woman that is confident, knows who she is as a woman, and can take charge. Most guys are very dominant in the bedroom, but I prefer being submissive. There’s just something about a dominant woman that turns me on. Don’t take this the wrong way. I’m not some little sissy boy. But I have a fantasy of being submissive to a strong, attractive woman.”
– “Some love me, some hate me, but no one knows who I truly am. That’s because I like to be a bit of a mystery. Why don’t you come try and solve this mystery? There’s a pretty sweet reward for doing so.”

Try not to copy/paste this lines but to give it some personal spin and make it more-less unique. If all of you put the same lines then it will not give such a great results as we had with them. So be just a little original.

 

3. How to write a message to a girl

Fuck girls onlineNow that you have set up your profile on AdultFriendFinder.com you are coming tothing that most of you guys fear the most and having much problems – What to say? And there is your first mistake, because you are jumping over very important step in writing a message to a girl and that is – How to write? You must first learn how your message should look like so you can then focus on message content.
This is how to send a decent online dating message in eight easy steps.

One Paragraph – A one-sentence message probably isn’t saying enough, but you also don’t want to send a novel. Responding to a few items in a person’s profile will take somewhere between three and eight sentences; if you find yourself writing a six-paragraph massive, work that delete key.
Be Original – They can tell you when your message is copied and pasted to multiple people. Sure, it’s a pain to actually read through profiles and send unique messages to each person, but aren’t you here to find a date? Learn a little something about the person you’re messaging, and reference that in your communiqué. “Hey gurl, luv urpics” is not going to get a response. More likely to get a response: A message that is directly responsive to several things in the object of your affection’s profile.
Don’t be weird – So you’ve caught on that “hey wuzz up” is generally understood to be an unoriginal message. Congratulations! However, copying and pasting some bizarre, rambling message isn’t going to trick someone into thinking you wrote all of that for them. We know you’re trying to be “random” or “funny” with your ridiculous message about getting married / having babies / getting divorced / giraffes / or whatever other inappropriate thing you are messaging to dozens of people at once. It’s not clever. It also doesn’t trick anyone (other than the slowest people on the internet) into thinking you wrote that totally nonsensical message just for them. Funny is good, but if you are not actually funny, don’t strain anything trying to be. Straightforward and nice is infinitely better than trying to be funny and failing miserably.
Don’t be pervert – Yes we all know that this is ADULT dating site and that girls have come herewanting to have sex with someone but that doesn’t mean that your first message can be “I want to rape your asshole!”, “Please swallow my seed!” “Hay baby, you want to lick my toes?”, “Are you for some golden shower?” and crap like that. You can crazy and pervert after few message when you know each other a little better, but when you send your first message use some common sense and be polite as you can be on adult site.
Maintain 1:1 message ratio – Do not send multiple messages. There are lots of reasons why someone might not message you back. There are lots of reasons why someone may sign into AdultFirendFnder.com, check their messages, and not message you back. They simply might not be interested in you. Or, they might be checking their inbox quickly, and will respond later. Or, they might not check their inbox very often. But the quickest way to get yourself classified as a psycho is to message someone more than once without getting a reply. You messaged them. They saw it, or will see it. Now have patience, or set your sights on one of the 10,000 other girls locking to have sex in your area. Repeat messaging says, “I am a creep with boundary issues.” And sure, there’s someone out there for everyone, but you will widen your dating pool by not being a creep with boundary issues.
Message people who might reasonably message you back – Does her profile say she’s a lesbian and you’re a straight guy with a weakness for Justin Bieber haircuts? Sorry pal, but she’s not gonna be into you, no matter how hard her floppy hair makes you. Do you live in Tennessee and are up for some long-distance chatting but she’s in New York and wants someone local? Move on to someone who’s interested in people of your gender, location, age, etc. The beauty of internet dating is that we all get to specify what we want. Respect that and don’t waste anyone’s time – specially your own!
Be nice You would think “don’t be a dick” would be obvious, but there are apparently legions of dudes who adopt crappy pick-up artist tactics in their online dating lives, and think they might get lucky by sending vaguely (or blatantly) insulting messages to unsuspecting recipients (nagging is actually a thing!). Is there some low-self-esteem bitch out there who might respond to a message about how ugly she is? Sure, maybe, but the odds are slim — and since this is the internet, even girls who have been strongly socialized to be nice to cretins in bars are able to hit the delete key. You’re better off ditching the crappy, manipulative dating tactics and sending a nice, normal message.
Keep it positive – No one want fuck with sad-sack, and no one wants to hear about your terrible past dating life the first time they talk to you. So don’t whine about your lack of a sex life, don’t lament the fact that you’re such a nice guy but women are such bitches, and definitely don’t threaten to kill yourself because you’re lonely. Sell yourself! If you want extra credit (and a better chance at a response) be a little bit witty (In some cases LIE!). Remember that nearly everyone likes someone who takes an interest in them. So respond to what’s in their profile and ask a question or two. Don’t make it The Sad-Face Show. Keep it breezy.

Stick to these rules, be kinda funny, try not to be a cliché machine  and you’re on a good way to get many responses to your message. Of corse, you first need to write some content in your message, so now you can ask – WHAT to say?

4. What to say in a first message to a girl

Sending or accepting your first message can be a harrowing experience. Your hands can get moist and your heart may pound in anticipation of what she might say. To aid or abet and make your first message experience simple to grip and  raise your chances of bantering with the person in a to-and-fro discussion, here are guides that will help you.

Send Instant Messages When they are Live Online – You have seen that dashing dame and now you’d like to send her a message. Ensure you check that she’s online. Your feedback rates will always be better if the chic is presently on the Net. AdultFriendFinder.com will tell you when someone is online so choose the appropriate time to send your message when she’s on. You have a stronger chance of getting a speedy response.
Special Subject Line – Crappy openers like ‘Hi there’ or ‘Hi Gorgeous’ are clichéd and most likely to get yawned over and forgotten quickly. You are a dude sending a message to a cool chic, so get it into your head, you are not the only one. Her inbox is most likely littered with boring messages like yours unless you do something about it.  Go out-the-box like Pandora with it. Smart lines like, ‘May I ask you something?’ or ‘I think I who your favorite actor is,’ work great. Think beyond your comfort zone be intriguing, coax her into letting you in and reacting to your first message.
Humor Works Magic – Forget about being a stand-up comedian to communicate on a hookup dating site. You just need to be funnily crazy for her to break a grin. Check out her profile and come up with a topic you can latch onto. Make jest of her introduction. If you are not a clown-type person, just Google ‘jokes’ or ‘smart lines for dates’ and see what you come up with.
Keep Simple & Syrupy – Your initial message should be straight and to the point nothing beyond that. Don’t make her feel you have spent a sleepless night preparing your message. Keep it for when you actually see who you like. Try to get her primed for some chit-chat by asking her how she’s doing or send her a laugh or crazy fact you googled up. Don’t lose sleep over crafting the perfect message; there is plenty of time for that if all things work out.
Get Her Number Add Her on Facebook – The main target with all these hookup tips for the 1st email you send is to get her number or make her add you on Facebook. You need to work towards anything you can use to contact her in a more relaxed or informal atmosphere. This lets you take the chit-chat to the bistro, restaurant and ultimately your bed.

Read these carefully and tweak them to create your peculiar email messages. When you know what to say on a hookup dating site, you increase your feedback and chances of getting some pussy. We tested over 50 different ways to send a first message on AdultFriendFinder.com

 

5. Examples of good & bad messages

To give you an idea of what NOT to send, here are 3 messages we actually sent to women online. They didn’t receive any positive responses. In fact, only a few women responded at all. The others responded with a rude message telling us what losers we are! So don’t send these messages…

“Hi there, my name is (insert name). I’m a 31 year old male from Iowa. I enjoy sports, playing poker, and watching movies. I liked your profile, you seem very cool. Let’s chat sometime!”

What’s wrong with this message? It’s boring. There’s no humor and it’s unoriginal. This person doesn’t seem interesting at all. Plus, this was sent on a hookup site, not a relationship site.

“Hey baby, you’re SOOO damn FINE! I’m so horny for you right now. I will do anything you want me to do to you. Anal, 69, oral, doggystyle, you name it I’ll do it. I want to chat with you tonight. My Yahoo! Messenger is (xxxxx). Why don’t you hit me up when you’re free? I’ll be waiting, sexy!”

What’s wrong with this message? We were way too perverted. When we first signed up for AdultFriendFinder.com, we didn’t realize that women on these sites actually aren’t attracted to the pervs.

“It may seem odd to receive this type of email on a hookup site, but I’m going to surprise you with the type of guy that I am. Yeah, I want to have sex, but I’m very romantic. I like to bust out the candles, bottle of wine, and truly make love to a woman. And I promise I won’t kick you out of my bed after we’re done. I thoroughly enjoy cuddling after sex. Let’s chat later, okay?”

What’s wrong with this message? It’s too cheesy and “sweet”. We tried out the romantic angle to see if we’d have any success with it, but we did not. Women aren’t looking for a no-strings attached relationship with Prince Charming. They’re looking for an NSA with a guy that is good in bed.

“My name is Mark. I am 5 feet 2 inches, I have blue eyes and brown hair, I am a simple-guy who loves to exercise and eat healthy”

What’s wrong with this message? This type of information is most likely in your profile, so it does not need to be copied and pasted into a message, dumbo. Think of something more interesting to say, for Pete’s sake. Tell her something she doesn’t already know

 

Now that you know what doesn’t work, it’s time to learn what does work. The message below received approximately a 90% response rate from women. You’re pretty much guaranteed to get a response if you use them. Just make sure to change some of the personal information. So don’t just copy and paste these emails. Read through her profile first and replace the necessary information to match certain things she said in her profile.

“I never thought I’d sign-up for a hookup site because I’ve never had problems meeting women. But I got tired of “bar chicks”. Something about fooling around with a sloppy drunk just doesn’t do it for me. I want a woman that’s sober and has her act together. Just because I’m mostly only looking for sex doesn’t mean I don’t actually care if you’re a cool chick. And from your profile, you definitely seem like you’re a down to earth girl. I like that. I have the week off of work, so why don’t you contact me when you’re free on Instant Message and let’s find out if there’s a connection?”

You’re way out of my league. But then again, you’re way out of everyone’s league. That’s not some cheesy pickup line, I promise! Actually, I totally have a thing for dark-haired women in black dresses. Yep, I saw that photo! So I have a little bet with myself. Cuz I don’t think you’re real. I mean, I hope you’re real. But let’s be honest here – most of the profiles on this site aren’t legit. And there’s no way a woman with your personality and sex appeal is really posting an ad on this site. Prove me wrong by responding. I so hope I lose that bet!

I have good news and I have bad news for you. The bad news is I haven’t met one single woman on this site that was worth my time, and I’m not even all that picky! How ridiculous is that? Respond to this email and I’ll tell you what the good news is. I promise it’s something you’ll be interested in…

Why this messages work so well – None of those messages appear to be canned. They are creative, mildly humorous, and original. A “test” was incorporated in each message, and we kept them short and to the point. Women don’t want to read long-winded messages. They have far too many messages to read. So they pick and choose. You have to catch their attention right away or the message will get immediately deleted. So let’s summarize the qualities of a great hookup online dating introductory email…

– Short and to the point
– Humorous
– Asks a question or includes a “test”
– Personalized
– Original
– Stands out from the rest
– Doesn’t appear to be canned

It’s not that hard, now was it?

 

6. The Strategy

– Lower competition –

 You have to realize that all the guys on AdultFriendFinder.com will be sending messages mainly the gorgeous girls who have sexy profile pics! So one key to success is to reduce the competition and focus your attention on some of the girls who do not have pictures posted at all. Having your picture posted on AdultFriendFinder.com can vastly improve the amount of interest you receive, as we have explained above. And so it follows that women (and men) who do not have pictures posted of themselves receive far less attention from the opposite sex. You can use this fact to your advantage – focusing your attention on women who do not have pictures posted will mean that you will not have nearly as much competition from other guys sending her emails and as such your e-mail will stand out more. There are plenty of women who are active on Adult FriendFinder who do not have pictures of themselves posted for any number of reasons. You shouldn’t assume that just because they don’t have pictures posted that they’re ugly or not worth trying for. Many women don’t post pictures because they’re afraid of being recognized by someone they know. Most of the women we have  “dated” on Adult FriendFinder have been ones who didn’t have pictures posted on their profiles – and we have been successful at targeting those women mainly because there was less competition for those women from other guys on the site. As soon as you realise this and learn to use it to your advantage, you can literally clean up on Adult FriendFinder! Many of the women who don’t have profile pics are also very good-looking (granted some are not), but from their body types and weights listed in their profiles you can at least choose ones with a body type you like without having to see their photographs. Targeting women without profile pictures has been the real key to success on Adult FriendFinder for us. Coupled with all of the above, it has been a real gold-mine of opportunity! And it can be for you too if you follow our advices.

 

 

 

– Be different –

We have discus about this above, but let’s say it again. There are too many guys on AdultFriendFinder who are going to send same stupid messages do same boring things and act like dicks, so it’s not gonna be that hard for you to be different. Just make your message and your strategy little unique and different and you will get many success.
The easiest way to do so is to actually READ what it says on girls profile and take a look at her picture (even better hole gallery if she have one) and start from there.
Personalize your message. Read through her profile, word for word. Get to know who she is as a person. In your mesaage, make mention of at least 1 thing related to her profile so she knows you took the time to read it. This will make her feel special and not feel like she’s just another girl.Compliment the person on something you’ve read about them in their profile or compliment them on their photograph. If she has blue eyes then tell her they’re the most gorgeous blue eyes you’ve ever seen. If she has huge breasts tell her that you’re a real fan of big breasts and she has the most gorgeous breasts you’ve seen on the site (don’t be shy – this is an adult dating site after all!) Compliments make your e-mail personalised and it shows you’ve taken the time to check them out.  Mention that you share some or all of her fetishes (which will be listed in her profile). This again shows you’ve taken the time to read her profile and makes your message more personalised. If you like, you might want to share a short fantasy you have that involves her and some of the fetishes she’s listed. Remember, try to use her own desires to win her over!  Attach a picture of yourself. Some women get hundreds of e-mails a day and may not take the time to check out your profile, so attach a picture of yourself and tell her there’s more to come if she likes what she sees.
Keep in mind that even slightest interest for her personality, needs, interests, photo will make you different in a sea of same boring stupid messages that she is getting on a daily bases.

– SPAM –

Yes, this may be in collision with everything we have teach you by now, but we have made this guide for everyone, even for a lazyunimaginative motherfuckers who doesn’t have time for anything except for playing games and jerkoff all day long.

So if you have find yourself in that description then you can write a template e-mail, and modify part of it for each person you send it to.
Here’s what we do – we write a 3 paragraph email; the first paragraph is about her, why you like her and why you think you’d be a good match; the second paragraph is about you, who you are and what you’re looking for; the third paragraph asks questions and we try to insert the odd joke in. We send the same e-mail to all the girls we fancy first time round, but we always modify the first paragraph to suit the girl we are sending it to. This method of using a template saves time, but is flexible enough to allow you to personalize each e-mail you send.
This require that you read her profile and come up with something unique for her, but since you are lazy unimaginative motherfucker this is too much for you and you want something very different. Write single message/email that doesn’t have any personal information about girl you are contacting, say something about yourself, your interests, add little humor, ask question and keep it in a 3-4 sentence.
If you are unimaginative use some messages we have suggested as good, change it a little bit, save it and start raping Ctrl+V option. When you have send a hundreds messages in a very short time let a math do the magic for you…

– Be Active –

Browse through the chat rooms. This is where most of the women will be hanging out. Yes, some of them will be “cam girls” but here is a simply rule you need to follow “don’t EVER give out your credit card number.” As simple as that. As long as you are never tempted to pay a woman to chat with you, then you can feel comfortable chatting away.Use this time in the chat rooms to get a good feel for what women want. It is also the perfect place to practice your dating game. Chatting sexually is an art. The guys who know how to get a woman hot using a keyboard are the guys that pull girls. This is true for all dating sites.Unlike Match were some women will be turned off by your forwardness… it is almost expected on AdultFriendFinder. Take advantage of this. This is the perfect opportunity to hone this skill. Even if you get nothing else out of AdultFriendFinder, use it as a practice ground. Some of our guys firmly believe that the chat room is the key to pulling girls offAdultFriendFinder. Years before dating sites existed… chat rooms were where men and women connected.Take the time to really explore the site. Remember, this is not a dating site. It is a playground for the sexually charged. Read the blog posts of women on there. Reply to their posts. Write some of your own posts. In one word – Be Active!

8. Price

Before we say something about a membership price on AdultFriendFinder.com let’s see how much cost just ONE Friday night in a club.

You first have to get to the club or in other words to pay taxi, then you have to pay club entry fee so you can enter in the club, then you have to pay for drinks (not just one), after club you will probably go and grab a bite (which is also not free) and again pay for taxi to get back home….and how much many have you spend for just ONE night? How much money have you spend just to have a couple of drinks, maybe talk to one or two girls, and go back home all alone? Only God knows how much money have you guys already spent just on nightclub entry fees, not to mention the extortionate cost of drinks once you get inside, only to go home alone at the end of the night!
So when you put all in paper and sum all your spending’s for just ONE night in club you will see that20$ membership for one MONTH on AdultFriendFinder is far more less then one DAY in nightclub. Plus you have to have in mind that on AdultFriendFinder.com you can talk and get in tuch with close to milion female members for 20$ a month, and in night club you have to spend more then that just to talk to one or two girls (but in most cases none!).
So take a moment ant think about it….is this really that much for the great opportunity that gives you?

  • Basic Membership is Free
    • Free to explore the site as a basic member. However, in order to access all the advanced features and contact other members you will need to upgrade to Silver or Gold.
  • Silver Membership:
    • 1 month: $19.99
    • 3 months: $32.49 ($10.83 / month)
    • 12 months: $89.99 ($7.50 / month)
  • Gold Membership:
    • 1 month: $26.99
    • 3 months (+ 1 month free): $53.99 ($13.50 / month) – Time-limited offer!
    • 12 months (+ 6 months free): $134.99 ($7.50 / month) – Time-limited offer!

 

9. Conclusion

Now that we’ve gone over “quick” guideline for meeting girls on AdultFriendFinder and information about the site, we want to conclude this guideline with a little story. One of the first woman we met on AdultFriendFinder turned out to be a total lush. She was a drunk, wasn’t as attractive as her photo appeared to be, and had a horrible personality.
The reason we’re telling you this story is because you just might come across this type of woman. But we don’t want you to get discouraged. You can’t expect every woman you meet – whether it’s online or offline – to be perfect. Life doesn’t work out that way. So don’t let it bother you if the first girl you meet turns out to be a total dud. It happens.
Out of the 19 women we met in person in a period of just one month using this tactics, she was the only one we refused to sleep with. 18 out of 19 ain’t too shabby! Of those 18 women, we sealed the deal (have sex) with 15 of them. Again, that ain’t too shabby! If you sign-up for AdultFriendFinder, we are confident you will experience similar success. So get off your lazy butt and get signed up…NOW! Hot women are waiting for you, so get on it! We’re just trying to guide your cock!

 

10. More Tips, Tricks, Guidelines and Help

This guideline is just a short sum of all tactics and adult dating experience we and our friends have in life. Telling all that we know and have experienced in online (and offline) adult dating would take us years, so HERE in our dating tips section you can find more tips, tricks and guides that we and our friends will post accordingly, so you can find every information that can be useful for your adult dating game.
So it wouldn’t be a bad idea to bookmark our site 🙂